Everyone’s experience of separation is different. Likewise, the personal support each person needs, is different. What I have witnessed to be true however, is that each person requires personal support of some kind during the process of separation/divorce.
Who would be a personal support person for me?
Most people need at least one support person. They may be a friend or family member, colleague, someone who does not know your former partner or someone who has personally experienced separation or divorce. Your personal support person could be anyone you trust.
Not every support person will be able or willing to provide all of the personal support you need. As such, it is wise to build a support team; a group of people who, collectively, provide the personal support you require to move through what is usually an emotional and challenging time.
What does a personal support person do?
What you need from each support person may be different. You will likely have one or more support people who act as your confidant and others who play different roles. Some may be at the end of the phone when you need them, some may help you move house, some may take you to coffee or for a beer and encourage you to try new things and rediscover who you are without your former partner.
What you need from each support person may change over time as well.
How do I get a personal support person?
Generally people are not good at asking for support. Now is not the time to be shy. Reach out to the people you trust and feel will provide the personal support you need.
Don’t forget to obtain professional support as needed!
It is also important to access professional support, for example, counselling, if you need it. Your personal support team should not be used as a substitute for professional support.
Where do I find out more?
My book “Moving On – What you need to know about Separation & Divorce” contains more information about building your personal as well as your professional support teams. Feel free to contact me to secure your copy or jump onto your favourite online platform.