What is a personal support team and why would I need one?
Everyone’s experience of separation is different. Likewise, the personal support each person needs, is different. What I have witnessed to be true however, is that each person requires personal support of some kind.
Most people need at least one support person. They may be a friend or family member, someone who does not know your former partner or someone who has personally experienced separation or divorce. Not every support person will be able or willing to provide all of the personal support you need. As such, it is wise to build a support team; a group of people who, collectively, provide the personal support you require to move through what is usually an emotional and challenging chapter in one’s life.
What you need from each support person may be different. You will likely have one or more support people who act as your confidant and others who play different roles. What you need from each support person may change over time as well. Initially you may not want to see or speak with anyone about what you are experiencing. You may find that you then need someone with whom to talk it all through. You may not. You may want a support person to try new hobbies or share new experiences with you. He or she may help you discover what you want from your new future. You may want to ask your confidant for their opinion and advice on important decisions you face.
Generally people are not good at asking for support. Now is not the time to be shy. Reach out to the people you trust and feel will provide the personal support you need.
It is also important to access professional support, for example, counselling, if you need it. Your personal support team should not be used as a substitute for professional support.
Nothing in this article is legal advice particular to your circumstances. You should obtain legal advice from an experienced family lawyer as to your situation.
My book “Moving On – What you need to know about Separation & Divorce” contains more information about building your personal as well as your professional support teams. The book is available for purchase via the “Book” page on this blog site. Ebook and print copies are also available via Booktopia and other online platforms.
